tune into protecting your child | january 2020
Vicki Rutledge
Guest Contributor: Kelly Winkler, Licensed Mental Health Counselor
“Mommy, I don’t like school,” says Alicia. She is in the three-year old class with Mrs. Whitley. She has spiral curls bouncing this way and that way as she shares. Her eyes are the color of milk chocolate, she has always hated to leave me. Today, Alicia looks especially determined to share. I bend down so I am at her height and ask, “Why don’t you like school?” Her eyes squint slightly and her mouth tightens before she explains, “Mrs. Whitely always makes me color in the lines!” I knew at that moment that God was telling me something about how he made her. That little girl is 12 years old today. She still hates coloring in the lines, but now I know why. She sees the world through an artistic lens. She dances, she takes photos, she draws; her heart and eyes are made to see the world creatively.
In preschool, we are privileged to see our children’s unique interests come to light. We take thousands of pictures to capture that process. We are enamored with it. The special light that we see growing in them at this sweet young age is worthy of our delight and demands our protection.
In our highly sexualized world, one important place to provide protection is in the area of body safety. One in three girls will be sexually abused before they are eighteen. For boys, it’s one in five. These stats don’t change because of our race, our religion, or our income. Disturbingly, a child is no less likely to be sexually abused because he or she has been raised in a Christian home or in the church. How can we ensure that our children will not become another statistic?
Shielding Innocence is an on-line sexual abuse prevention curriculum for parents. It was created by me and my colleague, Caleb Grover. We combined our 30 years of experience as therapists in the field of sexual abuse and trauma with our hearts as a mother and a father and put them together to create a way to empower parents to protect their kids.
The content will teach you:
How sexual abuse happens
Ways to identify any parenting blindspots that may put your child at risk
How to create an environment where your child feels safe to have open conversations with you about everything
How an emotionally connected relationship with your child is the best protection,
The developmental stages of your child - what to expect they’ll need to know, what they’ll ask, and when they will ask it
How to empower your children to protect their own bodies when you aren’t there to do it.
You can jump on our website www.shieldinginnocence.com and check out the first module for free. If you would like the entire course, you can use the coupon code WEEKDAYSCHOOL to get 50% off.