Short Phrase to Repair Relationships
Every parent makes mistakes and missteps in the dance of raising children. Parenting is HARD WORK. It is emotionally draining and physically exhausting. Sometimes, we snap. We react in ways we regret. This is normal. This is what it means to be a human being who is also parenting.
What if, instead of beating up on ourselves for our parenting fails, we viewed them as learning opportunities? What if we used our mistakes to teach our children how to apologize and repair relationships? Here is a short phrase to use:
“I’m sorry I….(describe the behavior you want to apologize for)”
Amanda Morgan writes: “When we apologize for our shortcomings, we model how to make appropriate apologies, but also teach our children that we all make mistakes. When they see us acknowledge and apologize, they learn they can do the same.”
Here’s another helpful perspective: Do not decide on discipline when you are angry, you are likely to overdo it. Do not be afraid to repair or retract a punishment that is excessive.
Laura Kastner writes: “Consistency is important, but carrying out a punishment that is too hard is nutty. Plus, you’ll get to model another desirable parental behavior: admitting to mistakes. ‘I was wrong to decide about discipline when I was upset.’ Be proud if you deliver that line.”
In spiritual terms, this is confessing our sins. When we apologize to our children and admit our imperfections, we can also teach them about the perfect love of their Heavenly Father.
“If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” I John 1:8-9
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