My husband and I are in the process of teaching our second teenager how to drive. At moments, it is truly terrifying. Not going to lie to you. One thing I find myself saying over and over again is, “Slow down.” Experienced drivers automatically slow down in a variety of circumstances. They understand that slowing down is the best way to stay in control of the car -- when you are approaching a curve, when the road narrows, when you’re not sure what to do next, etc. Rookie drivers have to be taught this skill (insert teenage eye-roll).
Slowing down is beneficial for young children as well. I’m referring to the pace of family life, not driving habits. Young children thrive with uninterrupted stretches of time to just be. And they love it when their parents can just “be” too. You may have noticed that a slower pace does not happen automatically. Certainly not in our community where Disney World, Lego Land, sports leagues and ballet classes constantly tug at us for attention. “Go” and “do” are the siren calls of our culture. FoMO is a real thing, people. I totally get that.
What our children need most from us is really very simple: time and attention. Unhurried time feeds a child’s soul. Positive attention fills a child up. If the pace of your family life means you find yourself saying over and over again, “Hurry up,” this may be a sign that you need to slow down. This is one of the reasons we host a Daddy and Me Day each March. It’s a morning for dads, granddads, and uncles to just “be” at school to hang out and play. The children love it!
Slowing down is good for adult souls as well. Dallas Willard said, “Hurry is the great enemy of spiritual life in our day. You must ruthlessly eliminate hurry from your life.” I don’t know about you, but this call to slow down resonates with me. I realize that so much of my hurrying around is because I feel compelled to keep all the balls in the air. I act like it’s all up to me. But that’s not what I really believe. I believe that God is in control, not me. I am learning that I can choose to slow down and the world keeps spinning. God is at work - and He knows what He’s doing!
“Be still and know that I am God.”
If slowing down the pace of life in your home is something God is placing on your heart, check out the Link-Round Up for some thoughts and specific ideas.
Please know how much we delight in spending time with your child at Weekday School. They are a blessing to us!